Stay Calm and Collected
: Instead of saying, "You always do this," say, "I feel hurt when this happens." Using "I" statements helps you express your feelings without accusing your partner, making them more likely to listen and understand your perspective.
If the argument becomes too heated, it's okay to take a break. Tell your partner that you need some time to cool off and revisit the discussion later when you're both calmer.
If you don't understand something your partner said, ask clarifying questions to gain a better understanding. This shows that you are engaged and interested in their point of view.